I am always surprised to hear small children saying "I hate you!" to anyone. Where do they learn it from? Well it's very obvious, if you think about it. Children don't make up words like that on their own. They hear them. From parents, from friends at school, and sometimes even perfect strangers in passing. The difference between children and adults is we have the same choice to use such a word, but definitely the option not to. As an adult we are equipped with the knowledge to stop, breathe, and start again if we get upset.
I have learned in my life that there are some words and actions that you can beg for forgiveness for and never completely recieve the same treatment you had ever again. A breaking of trust can never fully be healed. The simple will tell you all is healed with an apology. But really think back on your last arguement. I bet it comes to you easily (becuase we never really forget). No matter who was right or wrong, you're still feeling the negative effects of that arguement and you will for some time.
So think about that the next time you feel your blood start pumping in your ears. Close your eyes. Breathe. And think before you say anything. Try never to say something you can't ever completely take back.
What do you do to cool off after an arguement?
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